The Handy Guide to Hand Jobs

Are you ready to hone your hand job skills? This move may have been in your repertoire for some time, but even so, there’s always time to learn some new moves. Whether it’s your first time giving a hand job or your 100^th, this is your handy guide to hand jobs including 11 top tips on the best ways to give a hand job.

Lube & hand jobs

If you love it, lube it. Keeping it wet and wild with a lubricant or oil is the sure-fire way to make your hand job memorable. A well lubricated hand job allows you to apply more pressure, glide over the head, shaft and balls with ease and stimulate even more nerve endings. With lube we always say more is more, and that’s also the case with with hand jobs!

Explore the whole penis

You’ve lubed it, so use it. Every inch of the penis is an opportunity for pleasure, although the head is a hot spot of nerves and a guaranteed way to get them off. The frenulum and scrotum are both areas that need some extra attention. With your hand wrapped around their shaft, stroke the frenulum (the string of skin which joins the head to the shaft) with the pad of your thumb while working in up and down motions.

The balls are often neglected, but gentle cupping, stroking and sucking will have them moaning in no time. If they’re up for it, playing with the perineum (the area of skin between the balls and anus) will also drive them wild. Just apply steady pressure and massage the area with a finger as you stroke his shaft to take your partner over the edge. Take it to the next level with prostate massage, find out more in our guide to the P-spot.

Less Pump

Continually pumping up and down isn’t necessarily the recipe for a great hand job. To perform the best hand jobs, you should twist, twizzle and massage. Shake things up and beat the arm ache. Hand jobs shouldn’t be a straight up and down shuffle – mixing up your movements whilst keeping a rhythm will keep things interesting and treat them to a variety of amazing different sensations. Let the toy do some of the work with cock rings and vibrating penis rings.

More pressure

When it comes to giving hand jobs, a good grip around their penis is definitely appreciated. Shake things up by varying your grip, going from soft to hard as you travel up the shaft then giving a mind-blowing squeeze when you reach the super sensitive head.

Do the twist

This technique will give them an orgasm to remember. To master it, you need to stroke up and down in a twisting motion. Start with your hand wrapped around the shaft at the base, with your thumb pointing down. Imagine a ‘thumbs down’ motion, and you’ve got it! Then, stroke up and over the top of the penis, applying extra pressure with your hand as you reach the sensitive head. As you reach the head, rotate your hand so your thumb is facing upwards as you stroke down again. Repeat this motion, switching hands as you go.

Take Your Time and Enjoy It

Hand jobs sometimes get a bad rep, mostly because they’re viewed simply as something to help you along to sex. However, done right, a hand job can lead to a truly mind-blowing orgasm. Rather than rushing through it, treat a hand job as the main event – after all, if you’re taking your time and enjoying it, they’re more likely to enjoy it too. And, once you’ve given them the time of their life, they can then return the favour. Win-win!

Pick a Position

Hand jobs offer a wealth of options when it comes to positions. Keeping things fresh sometimes involves looking at things from a new perspective… literally. Why not try a cheeky reach around hand job next time they’re waiting for the kettle to boil, practice your ‘rusty trombone’ (rimming whilst giving a hand job) or simply adjust the angle of his penis to bend down, ever so slightly, while you practice your new technique. Get them to tell you what he likes as you do it – the power is in your hands.

Play With Toys

Introducing a sex toy into the mix can take things to new heights during a hand job. Try teasing them with a bullet vibrator across their balls or up their shaft – the vibrations alongside your stroking will seriously blow their mind! To bring an extra kinky element into your play, introduce a realistic textured stroker. Or, to keep them harder for longer and really make the most out of your new hand job techniques, slip on a cock ring. Good vibes all round!

Get Your Mouth Involved

An instant way to up the ante when giving a hand job is to involve your mouth, so try licking and sucking the head of their penis as you stroke. The extra lubrication and range of different sensations will send them over the edge in no time.

Get Vocal

As with all sex, communication is key to you both having a fantastic time. Keep an eye on your partner to gauge what they like from their reactions. Better yet, introduce some kinky talk; ask them if they like what you’re doing, if they want more, or ask what they want you to do. Playing around with a little dirty talk will help set the scene, ensure both of you are turned on, and make everything you’re doing feel so much better.

Preparation is a Must

Ultimately, the goal of a hand job is to make your partner ejaculate (unless this is strictly foreplay, in which case, keep control of your speed). Be ready to deal with what is going to ensue and decide exactly where you want this to end up. Whether it’s your mouth, boobs or on their belly, bear in mind where they’re going to finish to avoid any last-minute panic when they’re ready to blow. If you’re unsure where they want to finish, just ask them, or suggest a place yourself – vocalising it will just turn the two of you on even more.