The Lesbian Strap on Guide

Are you new to lesbian strap on sex? Are you wondering how to use a strap on to please your partner? If so, then you’ve come to the right place. Here at Ann Summers, we’ve put together everything you need to know about strap ons in this handy guide, as well as a few hints, tips and tricks to help you get the most out of your experience. But first of all, let’s start with the basics…

What is a strap on?

A strap on is a dildo that can be strapped onto a harness during sex to penetrate your partner. Strap ons are great because it means you get to have your hands free to explore elsewhere too! They’re not only a popular choice for lesbian sex. For those who would like to ‘reverse roles’ in the bedroom, our pegging tells you all you need to know.

How to use a strap on

Strap ons are often made up of a dildo and a harness. If the strap on and dildo come as separate pieces you need to start by putting the dildo through the O-ring of the harness which holds the dildo in place. You can then wear the strap on, like you would underwear, but, as long as the strap on feels comfortable, the options really are endless. As well as comfort there are a number of other things you need to think about before diving straight into lesbian strap on sex (or pegging), including which dildo to go for and the importance of lube and cleanliness (we’ll go more into this below).

Choose a strap on dildo that suits you

While some will buy a strap on set that arrives ready to use, many couples prefer to buy a separate, adjustable harness which can then be used with their own toys. With a harness, a wide range of dildos or vibrators can be used for strap on play – you just need an option with a flared base that can fit within the O-ring of your harness.

As a rule of thumb, if one partner is going to be the receiver, they should get the say when it comes to the size and design of the dildo; it should be something that’s comfortable and pleasurable for them.

With our strap on range, we have a variety of dildos for you to choose from. From realistic dildos, if you want it to look and feel like the real thing, to jelly dildos, suction cup dildos for solo fun, and even strapless strap on dildos! No matter which you go for, you’re bound to have hours of endless fun.

You don’t have to stick to one position

The idea of a set ‘giver’ and a ‘receiver’ in a same-sex relationship is one that is definitely dated, and often incorrect. While some people may prefer to stick to one or the other when it comes to penetration, many couples are open to mixing it up depending on how they’re feeling.

You should never feel like you need to fit a mould when it comes to your relationship and time in the bedroom – after all, the end goal is pleasure, and that comes in a tonne of different ways! Switching positions and experimenting with power play is a great way to keep things hot and exciting in bed.

Consider comfort and quality with your strap on harness

When it comes to choosing your harness – or any sex toy for that matter – quality is key. Buying a cheaply made harness for your strap on is a sure-fire way to send things downhill when getting down and dirty: it could slip off, break, or just be uncomfortable for the wearer. To ensure a pleasurable experience for you both, invest in a high-quality harness that will fit, be comfortable to wear, and will last.

Don’t forget the lube!

Did you really think you were going to get through one of our guides without a mention of the good stuff? We always recommend lube to enhance sensations during any kind of sexual play but, with a dildo, more really is more. If you’re enjoying penetrative sex with a strap on dildo, the material can cause more dryness than usual – lube eliminates any of these issues and ensures every sensation feels amazing. Just make sure you’re picking a lube that is safe for use with your toy. To find out more, check out our Guide to Using Lube.

Keep it clean

We’re talking from a hygiene point of view here – keep the sex as dirty as you’d like!

It’s hugely important when using sex toys that they are properly cleaned afterwards. Remember, sex toys can spread STIs, so if you’re using one together or on more than one partner, wrap it up! You could use condoms with your strap on dildo to make for easier clean up. Plus, lubricated condoms can make things feel even better.

Have fun with It

When you first receive your strap on dildo try it on and familiarise yourself with the harness, sometimes they can be a little fiddly to get on, but that’s only to ensure it feels nice and snug when it comes to precision penetration and maximum pleasure. If it’s your first time using a strap on, there may be a moment where you’re thumbling around putting it on and finding it all a little strange. To avoid any interruptions, why not keep your strap on somewhere accessible or even put it on before the action starts? Trust us, once you’ve experienced how good it can feel, the confidence using a strap on will come!