What is Mutual Masturbation?

Masturbating each other can be difficult if you’re in a heterosexual relationship. Neither of you knows what it feels like to have the other person’s genitalia, so how do you know you’re truly hitting their spot? Mutual masturbation is the key to unlocking the door to pleasuring your partner with your hands

Why Try Couple Masturbation?

Do you know how you always manage to make yourself the perfect cup of tea? Then someone at work makes you one and it’s just a bit meh. You see where we’re going, don’t you? No one knows what you like better than you, so why not give them a first-hand lesson in getting you across the line? (To clarify, we’re talking about your sexual playmate, not the person at work who made you a cuppa - that’d be weird).

Getting your other half off using only your hands is a skill, a real skill. For a man, trying to find the elusive clitoris is only the beginning. He then has to figure out speed, pressure, and finger position – it’s a sexual minefield! And those of us without a penis have to contend with an opponent who might look mean and scary but actually has a tendency to injure relatively easily – the bodily equivalent of a premier league footballer. Does he need a gentle stroke with lots of lube to get him off, maybe he’s a little desensitised and needs a vice-like grip and fast hand movements to climax?

The Do’s and Don’ts of Mutual Masturbating

• Do : Watch and learn. It can be tempting to get carried away in the moment and start focusing on your own pleasure, but you should think of this as training to help improve your sex life together
• Don’t : Be tempted to turn this into a porno. Ladies, show him what you like, not what you think he wants to see you doing. If you don’t get a kick from penetrative masturbation, don’t do it. He’ll copy you, so make sure you show him right.
• Do : Be open and honest with your partner. If there’s something you love or need to get you there, tell them. Sharing is caring, so if you like a little buzz from behind using an anal toy, now is the perfect time to open up (so to speak).
• Don’t : Try to take over. Let them show you the way until you get the impression they want you to take over. If they are having a whale of a time pleasuring themselves, soak it all in. When it’s your turn you can show them what a fantastic student you’ve been – guarantee you’ll get top marks.
• Do : Use her favourite vibrator to pleasure her. The little buddy she keeps in her top drawer can be your friend too. There are going to be times when your tongue or arms get tired, so don’t think of it as a top-drawer traitor, you might need that little ally one day.

How to Try Mutual Masturbation

We believe sexual interactions are always better when they’re unplanned. You don’t want a scheduled ‘mutual masturbation session’ in your diary (not sexy), so if it’s something you want to try, why not float the idea next time you’re both in the mood and heading in the direction of sex? While kissing tell your other half you’d love to watch them pleasure themselves and in turn, they get to watch you too – tit for tat, if you will. When a couple masturbates together, it gives both of you the chance to see what each other really enjoys. Plus, it’s HOT!

Now you have all the information you need on mutual masturbation it’s time to get comfortable and get going. The best mutual masturbation positions are the ones where you both have a clear view of the action, so perhaps top and tailing, which we will admit, had a far more innocent ring to it before creating this article for your reading pleasure

Happy playing!

Love, AS x