Spanking Guide - Naughty Never Felt so Good.

A good spanking isn’t just about punishment – it’s about pleasure, power and the perfect sting. Whether you’re teasing your partner with a light slap or delivering a deep, satisfying impact, spanking awakens the senses and ignites desire. Ready to put them in their place? Or maybe you’d rather be the one bending over? Either way, this guide will have you dishing it out – and taking it – with confidence.

What is Spanking?

Spanking is the sweet mix of pleasure and pain, an erotic slap that leaves skin tingling and bodies craving more. Whether you use your bare hand or let a flogger, paddle or whip do the talking, a well-placed spank increases sensitivity and intensifies every touch.

Don’t fret, our bodies are wired for this. When you’re turned on, oxytocin (the “love hormone”) surges, making pain deliciously addictive. A sharp slap that would make you wince in the daylight turns into an irresistible, lip-biting thrill behind closed doors. Spanking isn’t just about impact – it’s about trust, control and surrender.

Why do people like spanking?

Power is sexy, and there’s nothing quite like taking control or giving it up. Whether you’re a strict disciplinarian or a teasing brat, spanking builds tension, deepens connection and pushes boundaries in all the right ways. Here’s how:

• Arouses adrenaline and dopamine, leaving you breathless and wanting more
• Heightens sensitivity, making every stroke, squeeze and thrust feel even better
• Adds a playful edge to foreplay because sometimes, being naughty should have consequences

And remember, not every spank needs to be punishing. A cheeky slap mid-session adds an unexpected thrill, teasing the skin before things get rough.

Getting Started with Spanking

Before you get carried away, set the ground rules. Boundaries and safe words keep things fun, ensuring everyone gets exactly what they signed up for.
Start slow – run your fingers over their skin, warming them up before delivering that first stinging slap. Watch their reaction. Listen to their moans. If they arch their back for more, you know you’re doing it right.
Want to up the ante? Introduce a beginner’s paddle for a more controlled, satisfying smack. Once you’ve mastered the basics, move on to floggers, crops and whips for an experience that’ll leave them begging for more.

Warm up the skin - Teasing touches and soft pats increase circulation, making each impact even sweeter.

Establish boundaries - Agree on what’s in and out of bounds before you start.

Pay attention - Moans, whimpers and writhing bodies will tell you if you’re hitting the right spot.

Avoid danger areas - Stick to fleshy areas like the bum and thighs. Steer clear of the spine and kidneys.

Respect limits - If the safe word is spoken, stop. No questions, no hesitation.

Don't lose control - Spanking should be thrilling, not reckless. Keep the force – and your emotions – in check.

What should I use to spank?

Variety is the spice of life, don't you agree? Which is why it's fantastic that there's so many options out there for you to choose from when it comes to spanking.

Bare hands

There’s nothing quite like the sound of skin on skin. Whether you’re caressing between slaps or holding your partner in place, your hand offers the ultimate control. Fingers spread wide for a deep thud? Or kept tight for a sharper sting? The choice is yours.

Floggers

A cascade of teasing strands builds anticipation before delivering a satisfying bite. Drag it over their skin, let the tassels tickle, then bring it down with a flick of the wrist. A flogger’s power lies in its rhythm – slow and sensual or fast and punishing? You decide.

Spanking Paddles

Big, bold and built for impact. Paddle spread sensation across a wider surface, making them perfect for long, drawn-out sessions. Whether you prefer PU leather for a gentler slap or something sturdier for a real punishment, a paddle guarantees a satisfying thwack.

Riding Crops

Originally for horses, now for something far filthier. The small, flexible tip of a crop delivers precise, stinging swats, perfect for marking your partner’s skin with your touch. Use the tip of the crop to hit that sweet spot or use it to gently trace the skin or the nipples for teasing sensations.

Whips

Lashings of fun. Whips are the most powerful spanking tools you will find. A whip’s long, sharp lashes are not for the faint-hearted – mastering control takes practice, but the results? Devastatingly delicious.

Positions for spanking

Assume your position. But which one? When positioning your partner, remember comfort, exposure and power dynamics all come into play.

The warm up

Before things get rough, run your hands over their body, kneading and teasing. A light squeeze here, a gentle slap there – until their skin is pink, warm and begging for more.

Lying face down

Perfect for beginners, this position keeps things comfortable while leaving everything deliciously exposed so there’s nowhere to go except up into the stinging pleasure of every spank. A few pillows under the hips? Even better.

Over the knee spanking

The ultimate in discipline, OTK spanking puts your partner in the perfect position – vulnerable, arched and entirely at your mercy. A hand on their back, a firm grip on their hip and you’re in full control.

Doggy-style

Whether during sex or as a standalone punishment, doggy-style spanking stretches the skin tight, making every slap feel sharper. With the sub on all fours and the dom towering over them, the power balance is undeniable.

Take Spanking to the Next Level

Want to turn the heat up even more? Restraints, blindfolds and sensory play take spanking from sexy to unforgettable.

• Blindfolds: Heighten anticipation, keeping them guessing when and where the next slap will land.
• Handcuffs & Restraints: Make sure they stay exactly where you want them.
• Sensation Play: Experiment with temperature. A cool touch after a heated slap will have their body in ecstasy.

Spanking aftercare

Once the scene is over, take time to wind down. Stroke and massage the freshly spanked areas, easing any lingering sting. Cuddle, kiss and check in – because even the roughest play should end with tenderness.

Ready to leave your mark? Explore our full range of paddles, whips and crops to build your perfect spanking kit. Whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned sadist, we’ve got everything you need to make an impact.

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