Light Bondage Ideas and Techniques

Start with dirty talk

Dirty talk can be a great way to test the waters and vocalise your fantasies. Talk involving power play, such as calling them ‘Sir’ or ‘Mistress’ can turn up the heat and help you figure out what you’re comfortable with before you get down to the actual bondage. Telling your partner exactly what you want and when is also a part of dirty talk. It can be a massive turn-on to show them how assertive and forward you can be in the bedroom. Always make sure that any stronger or dominant language used in the scene is pre-agreed, you don’t want to be using words that could ruin the moment.

Explore restraint

If you’re interested in the idea of bondage restraints, why not ask your partner to try holding your arms down during sex? This is a safe way to see if you’re both into the idea of restraint before you stock up on restraint equipment.

If you enjoy it and more restraint is on the cards, there are plenty of options when it comes to light bondage restraints. You can opt for soft restraints such as satin or lace ties for beginner friendly bondage, or try fur, metal or PU handcuffs if you’d like to experience something a little harder. For more advice on finding the right restraints, head over to our Choosing Bondage Restraints guide.

Sensory Deprivation

We’ve all heard that depriving yourself of one sense can heighten others and sensory deprivation is an excellent starting point if you’re looking to get into light bondage. We’d recommend beginning with a simple blindfold or eye mask. Once the submissive is blindfolded, you can be as firm or as gentle as they like. While some enjoy pain play, you may prefer a seductive massage, have your partner tease your erogenous zones or gently trail a tickler across their skin to heighten sensitivity. Again, you can choose to combine blindfolds with restraints to heighten the power play.

Exploring Impact Play

Light spanking can heighten sensitivity, increase adrenaline and lets you explore Dom and Sub roles. Start lightly with hands, then if you want to turn it up a notch, take a look at bondage equipment such as paddles double ended crops or light whips and floggers when you know what you feel comfortable with. To help make spanking the most pleasurable experience possible, check out our Guide to Spanking.

Playing it Safe

Safety and consent are key with any kind of sex, but with bondage or BDSM in particular it’s important to establish clear boundaries with your partner before you begin. If you’re not sure how to bring it up, try dropping some hints or asking them questions about their kinks so you can begin to discuss any BDSM ideas, interests and boundaries to ensure you’re on the same page.