How to Be Sexy and Build Confidence

How to Be Sexier

Have you ever noticed how some people just exude sexiness no matter what? For some people it doesn’t matter whether they’re rocking a designer outfit or a pair of PJs, or whether their weight has fluctuated or stayed the same, they just remain that sexy person who can’t help but attract attention. HOW DO THEY DO IT?

It comes from within. You see, feeling sexy and being sexy are a by-product of being confident within yourself. It’s super important to feel confident and comfortable in your own skin when considering how to be more sexy. We can all throw on a gorgeous suspender belt and a pair of sexy stockings and look phenom, but you need to feel as good on the inside as you look on the outside.

How to Be More Confident

Things that are a given are, of course, taking care of your physical and mental health through regular exercise and eating well. Don’t restrict yourself too harshly, you’ve got to enjoy life and cutting out lovely treats or drinks with friends is never going to make you happy, but overall, try to put goodness in so you get goodness out. Eating well and exercising doesn’t just tone your body, and in fact, we don’t believe the sole aim of doing these things should be to improve only what you see. Eat well and exercise to make you feel strong and capable and to boost your energy levels. Do these things to test yourself, see what amazing things you can achieve and smash the targets and goals you set.

All these things will make you feel fantastic, not just when looking in the mirror and seeing the body you want, but knowing the inner strength you have to push yourself to be stronger and healthier.

How to Be Confident When It Doesn’t Come Naturally

For some people, no matter how beautiful, intelligent, talented, or successful they are, building confidence is an uphill battle. This could be a personality trait, perhaps due to the pressures of social media to be ‘perfect’, or it could be down to experiences in childhood.

Confidence can be nurtured and strengthened later in life but it’s not always easy. If you haven’t grown up as a confident person or had your confidence boosted throughout your life, it can be hard. Don’t worry though, we got you. Let’s see how you can boost your own confidence and realise how amazing you are.

Stop Talking Negatively About Yourself

Just stop it. STOP.
Here’s what we want you to do. Think about the negative things you say about yourself out loud and in your head (because we know you do that). Now think how you’d react if someone said those things about your best friend. You’d go mad at them, wouldn’t you? It’s time to get positive baby!

Now we know you might think positive affirmations sound a little ‘airy-fairy’ but honestly, they can be a powerful tool in building confidence. By consciously repeating positive statements about yourself, you can rewire your thought patterns and beliefs, replacing self-doubt and negative self-talk with self-assurance and optimism. By repeatedly focusing on your strengths, capabilities, and potential, you can - over time - boost your own confidence. Because here’s the kicker when we get older, no one else can do it for you, and nor should you want them to. Because if someone holds all the power over how good you feel about yourself, they also have the power to take that away. You’ve got to do this for yourself, and you absolutely can.

Once you’ve worked on feeling confident on the inside, why not start experimenting with your look to see what else can give you a boost?

How to Look Sexy

The trick to looking sexy is to wear clothes you feel comfortable in. And by comfortable we don’t mean heading to the pub in your pyjamas (although that does sound like a great laugh). By ‘comfortable’ we mean clothes that fit you well and make you feel good. Ok so sexy bodycon dresses might be in style, but would you prefer to rock a flowing maxi and flats? Baggy 90s style jeans are making a huge comeback - that’s great, we love them too - but if you feel sexier in your skinny jeans and gorge stilettos then you do you, babe. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s style other than your own. That really is the key to looking sexy, because if you don’t feel good it shows through.

It’s all about discovering what styles of clothing and lingerie highlight your best features to enhance your sex appeal. And remember, wearing underwear that fits you perfectly means you feel amazing from the bottom layer to the top, so choosing the right size bra is important. If you need any help finding your perfect fit, book a bra fitting appointment with our experts.

How to Be Sexy in Bed

Ok. So, you’ve worked on your confidence and given yourself those positive affirmations, and you’re feeling pretty damn good about yourself when you’re at work, out with friends, or at the gym. But then comes the bedroom. This is a whole new territory.

Being sexy in bed is all about being 100% yourself. Intimacy should be fun and flirty; you should be able to have a giggle with your partner and just enjoy it without questioning whether you’re good enough. Sexy lingerie can help you feel amazing (especially when you see their reaction) and something like a sexy body suit can help if you’ve got areas you prefer to keep covered up, but let’s be honest, if you’re in bed with them, they’ve already fallen for your charms. They obviously see all the amazing things you don’t always see in yourself.

Another aspect of being sexy in bed is knowing what you want and what you like, and not being afraid to ask for it. If you know you need your trusty bullet vibrator or anal toy to get you to the promised land then don’t be shy in letting them know there’ll be a little helper coming along for the ride!

What Makes Someone Sexy?

It’s important to remember that being sexy goes beyond just physical appearance. Developing good communication skills, practicing active listening, and showing genuine interest in others can make you more captivating and appealing. Ultimately, being sexier is about embracing your individuality, being kind and respectful, and exuding self-assurance. Being kind is sexy. Being funny is sexy. Being smart is sexy. There are so many facets that contribute to a person being sexy that truly, how you look, is a really small part of it.

Just concentrate on being the very best version of yourself you can be, be kind to yourself and recognise all the amazing things you do in life and the rest will shine through.

Love,
AS X