The Ann Summers Fleshlight Buying Guide

The world of sex toys caters for women with a wide variety of toys, from G-spot vibrators to love eggs, but what about the men? Well, the Fleshlight may be the most well-known of all the male-oriented sex toys and with good reason. But what is a Fleshlight and what does a Fleshlight feel like?

At Ann Summers, we believe that everyone should have access to sexual bliss, whether they’re with a partner or alone. Here are a few things you need to know about Fleshlights, helping you engage in solo play that truly hits new levels.

What is a fleshlight?

The Fleshlight is one of the most popular and best-selling male sex toys ever. Made from materials designed to mimic the feeling of real human sexual contact, these toys are specifically designed to be as inconspicuous as possible, so (unless they open it) any guests who stumble across your toy won’t think anything of it.

What is the best Fleshlight for me?

There are numerous factors to be considered when you’re picking the ideal Fleshlight for you. Here are a few that you might want to consider before making your first Fleshlight purchase:

Explore the feels

A Fleshlight is much more than just a sleeve for solo penetration, there are all kinds of different textures, shapes and levels of tightness available. From ultra-realistic feeling vagina designs to toys that don’t have the aesthetic look but keep the feel, there are plenty of options available.

Pick your vibe

Just like most sex toys, there are a lot of different options available, ranging from basic through to vibrating. If you do fancy adding an extra element to your solo play, a vibrating Fleshlight will send intense vibrations through your penis, making the whole experience just that little more exciting!

Get lubed up

Whilst a Fleshlight may be designed to mimic a vagina in terms of its look and feel, it obviously can’t produce the natural lubrication that a woman can, so you’ll need a little help to get things sliding along nicely. Trust us, it won’t be a pleasant experience if you don’t do this. Make sure you use a water-based lube to prevent damage to your toy.

Using a Fleshlight for stamina training

If you’re wondering how to last longer in bed, you can use your male masturbator to build up stamina. You can use any of the Fleshlights in our range to help you get more acquainted with the feeling of sex so that when it comes to the real thing, you don’t peak too soon.

What does a Fleshlight feel like?

A Fleshlight is designed to feel like the real thing, and many are designed to look the same. The material has the real-life softness of human skin, and the opening is designed to replicate a real vagina, but does how does a Fleshlight feel once you start using it?

Hell yeah, they are. Fleshlights have a series of nodules and ridges inside the sleeve (that’s the soft silicone part that fits in the case) which are all designed to stimulate the nerve endings in the penis and mimic the feeling inside a vagina. A good helping of lube and you’ve got yourself the physical replica of a very excited, ready-to-go any time of the day playmate. If you’re not convinced, just read our Fleshlight reviews and ratings when you start shopping, you won’t know which to go for!

Some people like to warm their Fleshlight up a little, especially once they’ve added lube, to make it even more comfortable to slide inside and enjoy.

How does a Fleshlight work?

Unlike many women’s sex toys, the Fleshlight requires some effort on behalf of the user. It’s kind of like a posh wank, so you still need to do the work with your hand, but the inner canal of your new best friend is what makes them so special. Trust us, they feel nothing like your hand and everything like your fantasies.

How to warm a Fleshlight

Fleshlights feel better when they’re warm, no doubt about it – it just adds to the realism of the experience. To warm your Fleshlight, remove the sleeve and submerge the inner canal in warm but not boiling water. Think ‘warm bath’ rather than ‘freshly made cup of tea’ warm.

Alternatively, you can submerge your favourite bottle of lube in hot but not boiling water so the lube itself warms up. Simple.

Just make sure you don’t warm it too much – nobody wants to explain those type of third-degree burns in A&E!

How to use a Fleshlight

Using a Fleshlight seems pretty straightforward, right? Just stick it in and hope for the best! Well, not quite. From warming it up to making sure your Fleshlight is nicely lubed up and set for action, there are a few steps to follow:

number 1

Remove the gel insert and either run the warm tap or fill a sink with hot water.

number 2

Wait for your perfect temperature. Do you prefer to keep things cool or love it when things heat up? Use the water to heat the gel insert to your ideal temperature.

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Get wet. Everything’s better with lube and the Fleshlight is no exception. Avoid silicone and oil-based lubes as these can damage the Super Skin material.

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Don’t forget to lube yourself. The more lube, the better.

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Assume your favourite position and thrust away!

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Once you’ve had time to recover, simply remove the gel insert and clean ready for next time.

Fleshlights are great for solo play but can also come in handy for a different twist on foreplay with a partner. Just have fun with it and see where it leads you!

How to clean a Fleshlight

We recommend keeping all sex toys clean and fresh, for hygiene as much as anything else. Here are a few tips on how to clean a Fleshlight:

  • Remove the silicone sleeve from the case and give it a thorough wash in warm water – you can use Fleshlight Wash to make sure you’ve done a thorough job.
  • Once you’re sure it’s completely clean and there are no fluids left inside it, give it a good rinse through to get rid of any wash.
  • Leave the sleeve to properly dry before reinserting it.

When you’re cleaning your Fleshlight, make sure you’re either using just water or Fleshlight Wash. Soap, sanitiser and other cleaners can damage the soft silicone and damage your toy.

With a Fleshlight, you’ll want to make sure it gets a good thorough clean after each use. This will mean your toy lasts much longer and you can avoid any nasty unhygienic issues.

After a little use, you may find that your Fleshlight begins to lose some of its softness, if this starts to happen, just sprinkle a little Fleshlight Renewing Powder to freshen things back up and keep it feeling like new.

Fleshlight FAQ’s

How realistic are Fleshlights?

Ok, so one of the most common questions when it comes to buying a Fleshlight is always ‘does a Fleshlight feel like a real vagina?’. After all, many men buy a Fleshlight with the specific intention to spice up their masturbation and provide something that feels just like the real thing. The great news is that Fleshlights are designed to replicate that feeling of vaginal penetration, with soft material and an array of different, often realistic, looks and tightness in each one.

Can you use a condom with a Fleshlight?

Yes, you can use condoms with a Fleshlight if you prefer. However, you might need to use a little extra water-based lubricant as the rubber on rubber mightn’t make for such an easy ride, so to speak. As we’ve touched on previously though, Fleshlights are super easy to clean with the inserts being removable. So if it’s to save on mess, don’t overthink it too much as the clean-up is relatively quick & easy.

Can you use a Fleshlight without lube?

Whilst a Fleshlight may be designed to mimic a vagina in terms of its look and feel, it obviously can’t produce the natural lubrication that a woman can, so you’ll need a little help to get things sliding along nicely. Trust us, it won’t be a pleasant experience if you don’t do this. Make sure you use a water-based lube to prevent damage to your toy.

Fleshlights have been the number one male sex toy for a long time now and it’s with good reason! They can help you take solo play to amazing new levels, whilst also helping you with those all-important sexual workouts to improve stamina. Just lube it up and have fun!

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