How to use Lube

Everything You Need to Know About Lube

Some things in life are just better wet. Lube isn’t just a problem-solver – it’s a game-changer, a pleasure enhancer, a must-have for steamy, slippery fun. Whether you’re getting down to business solo, with a partner or with a favourite toy, lube takes things from good to mind-blowing.

Yet so many people overlook it, thinking it’s only for dryness or anal play. Big mistake! The right lube can intensify every stroke, every grind, every teasing touch. So, if you’ve been going in dry, it’s time to rethink your approach

What is Lube?

Lube is a slippery, silky liquid designed to cut down on friction and turn up the heat. It comes in water-based, silicone-based or oil-based varieties, each with its own perks. A little lube can make everything feel smoother, softer and oh-so-satisfying, whether you're teasing, tasting or taking things all the way.

How to Use Lube

When and how you use lube is entirely up to you. Some like a little drizzle before penetration, some slather it on for a slick and sensual foreplay session, and others won’t go near a toy without it. The wetter, the better – so don’t be shy.

Our top tip? Warm it up between your hands before applying. Cold surprises are fun in the right moments, but an icy splash when you're in the zone? Not so much.

The Best Lube for Every Kind of Play

Lube can create a whole new world of sensations for men and women. Lather up during foreplay, experiment with flavours for oral sex or dip your favourite toy before masturbation. The possibilities are endless.

Fruit, lube, and fingers

Best Lube for Vaginal Sex

A few drops of lube can turn good sex into toe-curling bliss. It amplifies sensitivity, makes every movement feel like silk and helps you last longer before friction gets in the way. For the most natural feel, go for a water-based lube which is safe with condoms, toys and all kinds of play.

Pro move: Add a tiny bit of lube inside a condom before rolling it on. He’ll be feeling every stroke like never before.

Best Lube for Anal Sex

The golden rule of anal? Never go in dry. Since the backdoor doesn’t self-lubricate, lube is an absolute essential. And when it comes to anal, thicker lube is better so reach for a silicone-based lube that won’t dry out too soon.

Some anal lubes are even designed to help you relax, making it easier to take it all in. But avoid numbing agents – you want full control over the sensations to avoid any damage. Once you’ve got the tools, learn from the experts with our beginner’s guide to anal sex.

Best lube for oral sex

Want to make oral even more delicious? Flavoured lube adds a tasty twist, making every lick, suck and tease even more enticing. Whether you’re going down on him or her, a drizzle of something sweet can make things even wetter and even wilder.

Try adding a slick of lube to your lips before wrapping them around something hard. Or use it as a finishing touch on your hands for an extra-slippery stroke.

Best Lube for Solo Play

Masturbation with lube? Next level. Whether it’s fingers or toys, a few drops of the right lube can make self-pleasure feel like a whole new experience.

For her: A drop of warming or tingling lube on the clit? Pure magic.
For him: A generous coating on the palm and a slow, teasing grip? You won’t last long.

Applying lube to hand

What can I use instead of lube?

We get it – sometimes you have products already at home that seem like an ideal substitution for lube. They’re sitting right there, so what’s the problem?

Well, when it comes to finding the right thing to use on those personal areas, you need to be sure you’re using a product that isn’t just going to feel fantastic but is also 100% safe to use. Let’s take a look at the most common substitutions that you should definitely avoid.

  • Baby oil. It’s light, it’s slick, it’s inexpensive and it feels good. So why can’t you use baby oil as lube? While baby oil is fine when used externally on the skin, it can increase the risk of vaginal infection. A definite no from us!
  • Vaseline. When it comes to lube replacements, many instantly think of Vaseline. However, petroleum jelly is incredibly thick. While this means a high staying power, it also makes Vaseline messy to use and difficult to clean up. Plus, because of this high staying power, Vaseline can hang around a little too long, increasing the chance of bacterial growth and infection.
  • Moisturiser. Many moisturising lotions contain nasty chemicals you don’t want anywhere near your most intimate parts, so it’s safest to choose something specifically designed for sexual use.

What's the Best Type of Lube?

Lube comes in all kinds of slippery, silky, and stimulating varieties. The three main types – water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based – and each have their own benefits. Then there are warming and tingling lubes, designed to heighten sensitivity and add a little extra spice to your sessions.

Choosing the right lube depends on your body, your play and how wet and wild you want things to get.

Water-based Lube

Light, versatile and easy to clean, water-based lube is the go-to choice for most kinds of play. It’s body-safe, condom-friendly and won’t damage your favourite sex toys. Plus, it feels natural – like your body’s own lubrication, but better.

DO use for: Vaginal sex, masturbation, oral sex, sex toys
DON'T use for: Anal sex (it dries out faster than silicone-based lubes)

Best for: Those with sensitive skin. Look for formulas free from perfumes and colourants to avoid irritation.

Hand covered in lube

Silicone-based Lube

If you want something long-lasting and ultra-slippery, silicone-based lube is your best friend. It stays slick for longer, making it a must-have for anal play or marathon sex sessions. But be warned – it’s not safe for silicone toys as it can cause damage over time.

DO use for: Vaginal sex, anal sex
DON'T use for: Silicone or real-feel sex toys

Vaginal sex and anal sex.

Best for: Couples who want extended play without constant reapplication. Just be careful – it can stain sheets, so maybe don’t enjoy playtime on your best bedding.

Oil-based Lube

Thicker, creamier and long-lasting, oil-based lube is all about indulgence. It’s great for masturbation and massage, giving a luxurious glide that won’t dry out quickly. But it’s not condom-safe (it breaks down latex) increasing the risk of pregnancy and STIs.

DO use for: Masturbation, external massage, some sex toys
DON'T use for: Any sex when using condoms

Best for: Long, lazy solo sessions or sensual full-body massages. Just keep it away from condoms and anything prone to stains.

Warming and Tingling Lubes

Want to turn up the heat? Warming lubes create a gentle heat sensation that can make every touch feel more intense. A little goes a long way, and when combined with oral play, it can feel sensational.

DO use for: Vaginal and anal sex, oral, masturbation
DON’T use for: Sensitive skin (some formulas can cause irritation)

Prefer a little buzz? Tingling lubes add a cool, electrifying sensation, making nerve endings tingle with every stroke. Perfect for those who like a little extra stimulation.

DO use for: Clitoral play, foreplay, nipple stimulation
DON'T use for: Penetration if you’re prone to sensitivity (test a small amount first)

Best for: Adventurous lovers looking to heighten sensitivity and take pleasure to the next level.

Ready To Get Wet?

Stock up on the different types of lube for the best ride of your life. Our full range of Ann Summers lubes have all different kinds of flavours and sensations to choose from, so you’ll never be left high and dry again.

Explore our guide to transforming your sex life with lubricants for more information on the best ways to use them!

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