Orgasms: Your Questions Answered…

Our Pleasure Positivity Project Director, Megan Barton-Hanson, recently asked you to send your questions about sex.

One subject that was on your minds was Orgasms and what is normal – such as ‘is it normal not to orgasm?’, ‘what is the best way to have an orgasm?’ and ‘I never orgasm during sex’…

We think the first, and most important, thing to cover is that there are lots of different versions of ‘normal’!

It’s always important to us that we give you the best advice we can, so we decided to team up with one of our favourite qualified sex therapists – Jodie Slee of Sensate Therapy – to get you the best answers possible…

When reading the questions we received, Jodie said “Orgasms are clearly a hot topic, and the fact that women miss out on 1,734 orgasms in their lifetime is an interesting insight into the complex world of female orgasms and shows us that there’s a lot to do for women – and men – to better understand how women’s bodies work.

“What’s really important to remember though, is that orgasms – while amazing – shouldn’t be the only way we measure our sexual satisfaction. By putting too much emphasis on having an orgasm – reaching that ‘finish line’ – we can actually affect our ability to have them, by worrying about having them, or rushing, or our partners feeling pressure to make us climax, taking the enjoyment away.
Focus on enjoying the sensations during sex, the connection with your body and your partner’s, trying different things – this is what makes great sex”

So, with this in mind, it’s over to the questions you asked…