Chapter Two

LUST

It's time to be daring and try something new...

here are some ideas on how to spice up your sex life,

introduce sex toys and get started with bondage.

Tools of the trade

If you want to step it up a gear, you need the toys to match. There are lots of innovative couple's toys on the market that will enhance sex for both of you. Try Fusion, designed to be worn inside you during sex while also stimulating your clit.

Give Jiggle Balls a try. Small, weighted balls designed to be worn inside you, Jiggle Balls move when you move, making your muscles contract. They'll spice up a romantic dinner or walk, or you could combine it with spanking for an altogether new sensation...

As for your bondage toys, go for ankle restraints or kinky hog ties. Put down the tickler - it's time for the big guns. Newbie spankers should try a paddle, while the spanking pros can enjoy the intense sting of the slender tip.

Domination and Submission

Fancy yourself in the driving seat? Domination can be about words as much as whips. Order your man to perform tasks and make him beg for what he wants. Looking the part helps - a stiletto on his chest is incredibly erotic, and a whip slapped against your thigh shows you mean business.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying being at the mercy of your man - handing control over someone you trust can be a huge turn on. A spreader bar takes restraints the next level, while a ball gag stifling your ecstatic moans will drive your dominant partner crazy.

Nipple play is not to be underestimated, and nipple clamps increase sensitivity to heighten your orgasms. Buy adjustable clamps so you can start with a light squeeze. Begin by trying them for a few minutes at a time, and work your way up.

 

Top Tip

The male equivalent of the G-spot is the prostate gland, located around 2 inches into the anus. When stimulated, the 'P-spot' has a whole new world of sensations and can produce mind-blowing orgasms. The best way to try it is with prostate massagers, which are specially designed for comfortable anal play and vibrate for powerful, pleasurable stimulation.

Try Something New

Blindfold your partner and light a massage candle about 10 minutes into foreplay. Drip it teasingly over their body - the wax turns to oil when poured and stays warm rather than scalding the skin. Wax play leaves nerve endings hyper aroused and the heat activates a small pulse of psychoactive chemicals called opioids, leaving you begging for more.

Did You Know?

The human pain threshold increases significantly when fully aroused.

Slap and tickle

Spanking is one bedroom dalliance that could be initiated in the heat of the moment. Your partner giving you a little smack during doggy-style sex can feel deliciously naughty, and if it goes down well, try it during foreplay.

Stretch out across his lap (or vice versa). The spanker should focus on the meaty part of the cheeks and upper thighs and use an open or slightly cupped hand. Try multiple spanks in a slow rhythm, then follow them with a gentle caress. Aim for a warm glow rather than a sting.

When you're ready to graduate to sexcessories, try paddles. They're smooth, flat and let you control the pressure. Crops have a sharper sting for the more advanced spankers. When in doubt: tease, flick and pat - work your way up to anything harder.

 

Anal Adventures

For men and women, the anal area is a playground of stimulation. Massage the zone during foreplay to start paying it some attention. Remember that being relaxed and ready is extremely important. With toys or anal sex, always go at your own pace.

Toys designed for anal play are a great way to experiment. If you're a first-timer, try using a slim butt plug to ease into it. Use a lube specially formulated for anal play to make things as comfortable as possible.

If you want to get your partner involved, have your guy use some lube and insert his little finger during sex. Make sure you take your time with foreplay, and when you feel ready, either lie on your stomach or try a 'spooning' position. Use plenty of anal lube, go slowly and stay in control.