Set the mood

To get you both in the mood, use a few tricks to create a sexual atmosphere. Get used to thinking of your bedroom as your boudoir; somewhere that inspires you to feel sexual, where your inhibitions can melt away...

Set the mood with lighting. Light a sensual candle and make a playlist of your favourite sexy songs to play in the background. The romantics among you can scatter the bed with rose petals.

Start the seduction by slipping into some beautiful lingerie. Explore the art of the reveal with a beautiful babydoll, and don't forget the finishing touches - heels and red lipstick aren't just for a night out.

Re-read your favourite chapters of an erotic novel, and don't be afraid have a dress rehearsal with a sex toy or alone before your partner joins you.

Speak your mind

Talking provocatively to your partner is a great way to set the tone. Start early - send him a naughty text on his way home to fill him with anticipation, or a photo of your new fluffy handcuffs will do the trick.

It's all about the confidence - the sexiest people aren't afraid to ask for what they want. Expressing your true desires will be one of the most erotic things you'll do. Hand over a naughty sex cheque and be sure that both of your fantasies will be fulfilled.

Give an erotic massage

An erotic massage will relax you both. Use massage oil or a massage candle for plenty of sensual slip, and focus on the muscles in his back, neck, bottom and thighs. Use circular motions with your palms, vary the pressure and use your thumbs and fingertips to get his senses tingling.

Switch things up by using a soft blindfold to stimulate his other senses. It's a playful nod to bondage while still keeping things light, and means that you can play with smell, taste and touch.

A massage toy feels incredible during erotic massage and adds strong and powerful vibrations. When you're ready to move on to the next stage, the vibrations are amazing for clitoral stimulation as well as stimulating his erogenous zones, like his nipples and shaft.

Start with foreplay

Foreplay heightens desire and can cover undressing, hugging, fondling, kissing and petting, as well as oral sex.

Hold off as long as you can, and in the midst of your passionate kisses slowly start to make your way down their body, paying attention to the erogenous zones... think neck, lips, nipples, stomach and inner thighs.

When using your hands, use plenty of lube and vary your strokes to see what he likes. Try one-handed, two-handed and explore the rest of his body. Start slow and build up your speed. When it comes to blow jobs, take control. Maintain eye contact throughout and show enthusiasm.

Start slowly by grazing your mouth along this penis and take it an inch at a time. Start slow and build a rhythm to get him worked up. Use a flavoured lube to create some much needed slip-and-slide.