What is Tantric Massage?

Is tantric massage good for you?

Tantric massage is good for you in many ways. The health benefits of orgasms resulting from tantric massage and tantric sex are well known, but there are other benefits too...

• It encourages a deeper connection with your partner – both physically and emotionally.
• Spiritual sexuality allows you to better understand your body, your senses, and the different physical sensations you can experience when you slow things down.
• Perhaps most important - it also means that you can take time out of your life to do something that feels amazing. It’s the ultimate act of self-love!

Firstly, set the scene…

Step away from the bed and arrange cushions and blankets on the floor either in the bedroom or living room. Scented candles, low lighting and a glass of wine can help to lower your inhibitions and get you in the mood for something new.

Make sure your partner is comfortable, if you’re the one performing the massage stand, sit or lay beside your partner whilst they are in a comfortable position. Sit facing each other for the ultimate connected experience.

Connect with your partner by synchronising your breathing. This is key to both tantric rituals and pleasure. Breathe in as your partner breathes out, and vice versa. If your mind starts to wander, bring it back to your body by focussing on your breathing.

Then it’s time to start your couple’s tantric massage

Touching your partner away from the traditional erogenous zones allows for a gradual build-up of sexual energy between you both, using skin-on-skin contact.

Begin with light strokes. You can use your fingertip, or a prop such as silk scarves, feather tickler or a leather flogger. The point here is to relax your partner. As you feel them beginning to relax you can start to intensify the strokes, alternating between gentle tickling and firm scratches.

When you sense your partner is relaxed and present, you can begin the massage. Pour some good-quality massage oil into your hand and begin the massage. Using your entire hand (not just fingertips), gently push the heart of your palm against their skin, then relax the fingers and glide your hands over your partner’s body with your fingers trailing after.

Remember to treat the whole body as an erogenous zone and don't become fixated on breasts and genitals. Explore fingers and toes, head to toe. If you are performing the massage, try to switch on your senses to what it feels like to touch. How does their skin feel under your palm? Take in the sights, smells and physical sensations yourself too. Stay connected and enjoy!

Tantric Sex Toys

Some sex toys are designed to be used in different ways during foreplay and tantric massage.

Remember, when it comes to tantric sex massage, the most important thing is to relax and enjoy yourself. This is a chance to get away from the stress of your life, and away from the race-to-orgasm sex we’ve become used to having. Sex is something to enjoy, take your time and do it right!